I was stunned.  As an actor, I was malleable with direction, so I immediately tried to shift my attitude. But this feedback was soul stirring. Eventually my ego softened, I loosened up, had fun and taught with enough gusto to get applause and off that freakin’ mat.

I was on the plane back to Boston. I was just about to fall asleep when I remembered a similar experience in acting conservatory.

“You’re not the lead in the high school musical anymore” the teacher said, “you’re going to have to give more”. And I did.

As I think of it, this was a recurring theme of feedback in my life. There is a mixture of confidence and kindness in me that is jarring for people at times. Mostly when they’re triggered. It happens with friends as well as my clients. It can be around money; dog sitting; anything really can set off the response that I am cold and uncaring.

It especially happens when I respond with strength and boundaries. Often when the person I’m communicating with doesn’t even realize they have changed objectives.

This feedback made me into the yoga teacher’s teacher and mentor that I am today. I train my students to show up authentically no matter what. I know what it is to phone in a class, to perform without vulnerability or true emotion. I know what it feels like on the receiving end as well. I also understand what it is to give too much, go beyond my limits, and suffer the consequences.  

There is a nuance to mixing boundaries and spontaneity as well as offering excellent feedback or insight. It’s what I call “the Gap”.

Filling the space between the spaces is important to me. It’s the difference between living and dying. I’m all about living. I want the person I’m relating to to also experience the best of me. I then wish to radiate that into the world.

This is why Soul Mapping exists. Triggers are actual portals for instant bliss, and bliss is not a buzzword here.

There is a science to bliss. Whether you feel like you suck or you rock in any given moment, radical authenticity feeds your soul. Is it sacred? Is it sovereign? Is it true?

All I know is that I’ve owned a yoga certification school for 8 years, and a spiritual healing program for 4. I’ve seen Soul Mapping work in every single one of my beloved students, and I continue to get feedback from all over the place. Sometimes it’s stunning. Thank God I’m not totally over it.

In Clarity, Flow, and Love,